What the heck is a DOULA & why do I need one? Sounds awfully hippy-crunchy-granola.
- Prenatally — Most doulas provide 1-2 prenatal visits to get to know each other and strategize for labor day as well as ongoing support to answer questions or provide resources as needed. She will be on call 24/7 for you from 37 weeks until you give birth.
- Continuous support through labor to help ensure a safe and satisfying birth experience and into a few hours after birth to provide breastfeeding support, if desired. She joins the laboring parent/couple at whatever point they decide they’d like her to come to them, whether that is at home, birthing center, or hospital.
- Postpartum — usually there is one optional postpartum visit, which can be used for breastfeeding or other newborn care skills support, processing the birth together, etc.
- Some doulas have special skills that can be add-ons or part of their package price, such as photography or massage (the latter wouldn’t be an optional add-on so much as a specialty that you might pay a bit more to have in a doula), so you can consider whether one of these things might be appealing to you to seek out. Quite a few doulas also provide services such as placenta encapsulation or birth pool rental (for home births).
- In my work as a DONA-certified birth doula, I routinely type up my notes about the labor/birth and provide those for my client. I aim to not editorialize, but just to state facts as much as possible. Not all doulas do this, but you can ask as you interview candidates if this is something you’d like. Sometimes it helps to have another person to fill in gaps the parent(s) might have in their memory as they seek to remember and perhaps journal this big day in their family’s life.
A doula draws on her professional training, knowledge and experience to provide emotional and informational support, physical comfort and, as needed, communication with medical staff to make sure that you have the information you need to make informed decisions as they arise in labor. She can provide reassurance and perspective to you and your partner, helps to normalize an otherwise potentially unnerving process — particularly for first-time parents — and therefore help alleviate anxiety, strategize and make suggestions toward labor progress, and help with relaxation, massage, positioning and other techniques for comfort. In this way, a doula effectively supports laboring at home as long as possible, which is a great way to avoid unnecessary intervention (more on this topic in a future post).
“Not quite convinced,” you say? No problem, here’s more:
- Tends to result in shorter labors with fewer complications
- Reduces negative feelings about one’s birth experience
- Reduces requests for pain medication
- Reduces the need for pitocin (a labor-inducing drug), forceps or vacuum extraction & cesareans
- Feel more secure and cared for
- Feel more respected and heard — a top contributing factor to satisfaction in birth
- Are more successful in adapting to new family dynamics
- Have greater success in breastfeeding
- Display increased parenting confidence
- Experience lower levels of anxiety / depression (in pregnancy as well as postpartum)
Sources: DONA International, Klaus and Kennell study, 2002, Listening to Mothers III Survey.
What do doulas NOT do?
- Doulas do not catch the baby. It’s a common point of confusion, but doula does not equal midwife. Catching baby — and protecting the physical health of mom and baby — is the definitive role of your clinical care provider (OB or midwife).
- A doula does not replace an involved and supportive labor support partner — she counsels with not just the pregnant parent but labor support partner(s) as well to learn how to best serve the family unit.
- Most of the time, doulas should not speak directly to hospital staff to express a client’s wishes — or at least should be very slow to do so and only do so if necessary. Most hospital staff prefer, and often must legally have, the laboring parent or her partner be the one to communicate preferences. It’s usually better for a doula to confer with the laboring parent/couple to help them make decisions throughout their labor, and then they can communicate their decision to their care provider.
What to look for in a doula
- It’s important to interview more than one doula to find the right “fit” for you. Ask yourself, “Will I feel comfortable being in my most vulnerable moments with this person?”
- Ask questions of the doula. Here’s a good interview resource from Childbirth Connection.
- The “right” doula for you will bring a sense of calm into the room for you and any applicable partner just by her presence.
- A doula should have a thick skin. I promise my clients that they can’t hurt my feelings in labor. This is important so that the laboring parent can labor unhindered, unconcerned with manners, allowing herself to go to the primitive state often required to allow labor to progress in a healthy way.
- You want a doula who is a straight shooter — who will always tell you the truth and not sugarcoat things.
- Look for a doula who doesn’t seem to still be heavily processing her own birth experience(s). This will obviously be YOUR birth, not hers, and she needs to be able to put her issues aside. Otherwise, it can sometimes hinder her ability to provide effective, non-judgmental, compassionate support that engenders a congenial atmosphere with hospital staff.
I do recommend that you ask your care provider (OB/midwife) what they think about doulas before seeking out one — after all, you want to work toward a collaborative, positive atmosphere and birth team, and avoid inviting tension. If your care provider doesn’t seem keen on doulas, I’d consider looking for another care provider or definitely want to gain a deeper understanding of why they feel this way.
To find a doula anywhere:
Doulas of North America (DONA) International
Doula Match (U.S. & Canada)
To find a doula in NYC:
Birth Focus (large group/sliding scale)
NYC Doula Collective
NYC’s free doula program
NYC Free & Low Cost Doulas
For further reading:
Labor/birth photos with doulas
Childbirth Connection’s Doula Interview Questions
“Have You Thought About Having a Doula at Your Birth?” – article by Penny Simkin
The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin
The Doula Book: How a Trained Labor Companion Can Help You Have a Shorter, Easier and Healthier Birth by Klaus & Kennell
More Business of Being Born (Part 3)
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